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 "This
is probably the only self-help book I have read and loved and gone back to over and over
again." "This book is the best I have yet found in dealing with practical
answers for adult children of dysfunctional families."
Secret Survivors by E. Sue Blume |
 rating=10: The bible for incest recovery. "I had started therapy and eventually had a breakdown (not something you need to do) at home, three days and nights, remembering my father's rapes and my mother's knowledge. This book was my bible to get thru an horrendous period of time. When something else came up for me, I'd frantically peruse the pages for a hint of what I needed to get thru this. I got the answers I needed to guide me thru. I believe my breakdown was my choice in order to make quick psychological lifesaving decisions regarding my family. If you have questions about this issue, this book will have the answers or direction for you to go for an answer. If you are in pain regarding these issues, this is the first book you need. And hang in there cuz it won’t feel like this forever and life can get so much better." Cheryl Moore Barron |
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 "Some
people spend their lives reacting to what life hands them, while others craft life to fit
their goals. Author Phillip C. McGraw, who is a psychologist but describes himself as a
strategist, is determined to make sure that his readers are the creators of their
lives, not created by their lives. By accepting that you are personally accountable
for every element of your life, McGraw says, you can erase the negative "epidemic
behaviors" (found in all of American society: denial, false assumptions, inertia,
deceptive masking) in your life and reach your goals." This is Oprah's Change Your Life guest. Personally, early in my recovery I wouldn't have done well hearing his message. I needed the time to be fragile, enraged, grieving and profited from taking that time. I also reached a point where I understand his message and live it. Cheryl |
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 "A
boundary is our personal property line that delineates those things for which we are
responsible. The authors explain God's purpose for setting boundaries, ten laws and myths
of boundaries, how to teach children to set boundaries, how to require responsibility from
others, and more." |
The
Me Nobody Knows : A Guide for Teen Survivors "One in four
girls and one in seven boys are sexually abused before their 18th birthday. These teens
have trouble distinguishing between a typical concern and one that results from sexual
abuse and the ensuing shame. In this valuable book, written for the adolescents
themselves, the authors validate the conflicting emotions aroused by sexual abuse and
offer simple, concrete advice for reporting an incident and seeking counseling." Young Adult Survivor Fiction: Acting NormalBee and Jacky Facts Speak for Themselves I Hadn't Meant to Tell You This The Hanged Man Telling When She Hollers |
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tend to fold down important pages and hilite important words and tools. Most of this book
is folded and hilited.rating=10: "This book validates many lessons I learned the hard way because of my family of origin incest history, child support and custody issues, work issues and so on. You don’t have to learn on your own without any direction. This book offers real tools that you can use to deal with the difficult people in your life." |
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Lie by Scott Peck rating=10: I am an incest survivor. This book described my family. Scary. Validated the tough choices I had made in my life. Helped me feel better about having made those choices. Scott Peck sees things clearly, and helps you see them clearly also. Cheryl Moore Barron  by Peter
McWilliams. This is the book I used to get over the loss of my family. |
 Everything
We Wish We Had Learned About Life in School--But Didn't (The Life 101 Series) by Peter
McWilliams (The
Life 101 Series) |
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Growth Editor's Recommended Book, 04/01/98:All families keep secrets, from the world and from one another. Was a child born out of wedlock? Is a brother using drugs? According to Evan Imber-Black, a psychiatry professor and the director of program development at New York City's Ackerman Institute for the Family, there's an important difference between healthy privacy that promotes necessary boundaries and toxic secrets that poison relationships between family members and keep people from getting help. In fact, Imber-Black says, every secret is different, and the decision whether or not to reveal a secret can be painfully difficult. In this comprehensive, very intelligent book, she covers all the kinds of secrets readers are likely to be keeping (or have been kept from knowing), and gives thoughtful advice on what to do about each of them.
How You Can Survive When They're Depressed : Living and Coping With Depression Fallout, the emotional upheaval suffered by the friends and family members of someone who's depressed |
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